Resume Virtues vs Eulogy Virtues

As I was reading an obituary today, I reminded that I still haven’t seen “proficient at Excel”, “knew his way around a CRM” or “put together one of the best P&L sheets I’ve ever seen” in an obituary byline. Obituaries are saved for things that we really remember people for. What was the difference they made? How did they serve? How did they take care of those in their care?

As a leader, what are you focusing on today in terms of what you will be remembered by? How will you make a difference, even if it’s small, in the life of someone today? How will you make people feel today that are under your care? How will you find a way to serve those that you are leading?

This is not to say that as a manager or a leader, you shouldn’t be expecting the very best out of people in terms of their expectations or behaviors. But are you expecting the best because of how it reflects on you OR are you expecting the best because you can help someone achieve their goals?

The author David Brooks has an article that explores just this topic. The résumé virtues are the skills you bring to the marketplace. The eulogy virtues are the ones that are talked about at your funeral — whether you were kind, brave, honest or faithful. Were you capable of deep love?

As a leader, I’d invite you to read this article today and think about how you can better cultivate eulogy virtues.

Blimpies

QIC: Iditarod
PAX: CDL, Yosef, Noble Virus, Iditarod
You can tell “cold” has made its impression on the F3 Murfreesboro PAX. 4 Red Pillers showed up to get better or at least keep from getting worse.
WOR:
2 Laps
GMs x 10 IC
Daisy Pickers x 10 IC
WMH x 10 IC
BAC x 10 IC
BACR x 10 IC

The Thang:
B.L.I.M.P.S. and Mosey
5 sets of BLIMPS in Various parking lots around downtown Murfreesboro wit Moseying in between.
Burpees x 5
Lunges x 10 each leg
Imperial Walkers x 15
Merkins x 20
Plank Jacks x 25
Squats x 30
Pax performed to perfection except the two sets in which all pax forgot what imperial walkers were and performed Hillbillies. Mr. Roboto, Schnitzel, Scraps, Aristotle, Nuggets, Ace, NPR, and G-String were all mentioned and discussed during mumble chatter but not in attendance. Also discuseed whether or not Blimpie restaurants still existed IRL or just in gas stations.

MARY: 1 Minute of Crunches

COT/Prayer

CheezWhiz & RagDoll Team Up to Take Down BrokenWheel

14 PAX in attendance: Barney Fievel, Numbtucks, 3rd Degree, Sterno, Creeper, Netflix, Altidore, Stats, ShowMe!, Nimbus1500, Typo+, Tebow, Cheese Whiz & RagDoll (co-VQiC)

Numbtucks, Barney Fievel and YHC came early for a 10 burpee on the minute for 10 minutes welcome-party. Creeper joined in with many rounds of strong reps also. Getting Stronger! Nice and warm now for the beatdown.

RagDoll gets us circled up while CheezWhiz preps the tunes.

Disclaimer/Warm Up:

15 SSH, Cherry Pickers (4 count stretch bending over at waist and touching ground forward, middle back then stand), 10 Slo&Lo Squats, 30 seconds Good Mornings OYO. Other various stretches RagDoll called out, (I think)

Long Mosey around 1/3 mi track 1.25 times to the Baseball field-house.

Word of the Day: “Plyometrics” RagDoll gave a brief history lesson how a communist developed an Olympic training methodology based of burst/explosion techniques. His name was Yuri SomthingorOtherski (Look it up).

Thang 1: Yurpee Apocalypse

PAX took 10 seconds to partner up. While one partner performs 10 Yurpees (submitted to the Exicon) (Clurpee with 2 tuck jumps = 1), Partner performs AMRAP bleacher box-jumps. Then Flap Jack back and forth until times was called by Q going down by one rep of Yurpee per round. ~10 minutes

Mosey around track to PainGround

Thang 2: Up and Down Apocalypse

PAX took 10 seconds to partner up. While one partner performs 10 Pullups/Chin ups or UnderDoggies  , Partner performs AMRAP Copenhagens (dips…you get it…). Then Flap Jack back and forth until times was called by Q going down by one rep of Pullup/UnderDoggy per round. ~10 minutes

Mary

Circle Up in Parking lot. On Your 6! Keep feet floating during entire routine: 8 count leg hold, 20 Scissor kicks, leg hold, 20 FlutterKix, leg hold, 20 Toes to the Stars (reverse crunch leg thrusters), leg hold, 20 Freddie Mercuries (bicycles…you get it…), leg hold, DONE

Counterama/Namerama/CoT

Announcements: 

  • Great Double Virgin Co-Q by Ragdoll and Cheeze Whiz
    • We had 14 come out and support these guys! Way to go!
    • Playlist used by CheezWhiz available on Slack
  • This Thursday, October 25th – New AO Launch – The Pound
    • This makes the third AO for F3Nolensville since we started 6 months ago. Excellent work, guys! Tebow is the Plant Q.
  • Saturday, October 27th – Boos and Booze Party at Netflix’s house
    • 7:30pm-??? – Adults only please. Look to Slack for address and more details from Netflix. (Hope your back gets better soon bud!)

Isaiah 40:28-31 – Great Shout out and word from RD/CW about how we come out at F3 and get exhausted, but God is never tired and gives strength.

Westeros 10/22/18 Backblast: “What happened to fall?”

9 PAX ventured outside the warmth and safety of the fartsack on this slightly-above-freezing morning (at least is wasn’t windy and raining).

Namely:
Studio 42
Blue mule
Bicentennial man
High viz
Crablegs
Vector
Minnow tank
Right said
Porcelain

QIC: Right Said

Warm up:
Mosey to school pick up circle
SSH
LBAC
Reverse
Overhead clap
Seal clap
Willie Mays Hayes

The Thang:
Mosey to Love Cir
5 burpees at stop sign
Merkins
Mountain climbers
Squats slow and low
Lunges

Mosey back to Elmington:
Plank and wait at first stop sign
Indian run back to Elmington

Mosey back to parking lot
15 minutes of Mary: dealers choice ab work

Leadership lesson learned: a leader must not only say when to start, but also when to stop.

Coffeteria at Dose: highbrow discussions over caffeine

RS

Sack full of balls

PAX: En Fuego, Black Widow, Backlash, Offshore, Joey Freshwater, Umbrella, Boone’s Farm, Toga (QIC)

Eight posted on a beautiful Fall morning for a little unexpected fun.  YHC promised a bit of fun if we got at least eight, and here’s how it went down:

Disclaimer then mosey to tennis courts at the park.  Warmup COP, 4x arc loaders across the courts and back.  Bear crawl followed by sprints x2.

Divide into two teams of four to engage in the first annual Nashville F3 Dodgeball contest.  It’s just like regular dodgeball except you do 5 burpees when hit.  If three people on the same team are made to do burpees at one time, then they must do 10 burpees as a team,  and the ‘winning’ team does five burpees and gets a point.  JF, Umbrella, BW and EF lost three to nada.

Mosey back to parking lot for 4-5 rounds of “Don’t Tell Me About My Abs”= core exercise quickly followed by 5 merkins and plank hold.

COT with prayers for all those still living with the impact of the recents storms.

NMM:  This is a fun/different workout from YHC’s RVA days.  That said, the last time involved many more firm and heavier balls.  Toga’s current sack of fun involved many softer and lighter balls that proved to be more difficult to toss with any distance or accuracy.  They also didn’t quite have the impact that any player would want to hear from their balls.  Maybe Santa will reload with a firmer set for Xmas?

The Forge 10/20/2018 – Love Thy Neighbor and Swamp Bears

15 PAX came together in the gloom, welcomed the sunrise, and got a little stronger. Pax in attendance included: Barney Fievel (Q), Numbtucks, 3rd Degree, Sterno, Creeper, Mursa, Hushpuppy, Costa Rica, Cheese Whiz, Ragdoll, Sprinkles, Netflix, Pocahontas, Stats, and Little Miss Piggy

Long mosey around outside perimeter fence of football field. Various comments were made about how people that run marathons are over achievers and generally suck. Haters gonna hate.

Disclaimer

Warm Up:

20 SSH, 30 seconds Good Mornings OYO, 30 seconds WMH OYO. Other various stretches Barney called out.

Stop by Barney’s beautiful black truck and pick up your coupon (20 pounds).

Thang 1: Love Thy Neighbor

PAX took 10 seconds to partner up. 4 exercises with an assigned number of reps (below) must be completed as a 2-man group. One PAX begins assigned exercise while other PAX jogs out to the predesignated marker (about 75 yards). That PAX jogs back to partner performing exercise and picks up where they left off. Repeat until assigned number of reps of each exercise are completed. How much do you love your neighbor? Enough to pick up the pace on that jog back and “relieve” him?!

Exercises were:

  • 60 Blockees (coupon burpees)
  • 80 Block Merkins
  • 100 Block Squats
  • 120 Block American Hammers

Thang 2: Swamp Bears (11’s)

An old favorite, 11’s. PAX line up on the short side of the parking lot. Two exercises are Ginuwines with coupons and WWIs. Bear crawl across the parking lot is mode of transportation.  40 yard bear crawls between exercises kept us from finishing on time. Next time.

Mary

Barney led the group in some yoga stretches, toe touches, and other various stretches. Flexibility is power!

CoT

Announcements: 

  • Tuesday, October 23rd – Double Virgin Co-Q by Ragdoll and Cheeze Whiz
    • Let’s all come out and support these guys!
  • Thursday, October 25th – New AO Launch – The Pound
    • This makes the third AO for the Nolensville F3 group since we started 6 months ago. Excellent work, guys!
  • Saturday, October 27th – Boos and Booze Party at Netflix’s house
    • 7:30pm-??? – Adults only please. Look to Slack for address and more details from Netflix.

2 Timothy 1:7 – For God has not given us a spirit of timidity, but of power and love and discipline.

Bomber 10192018 | Focus: Form

CONDITIONS: Brisk. Winter is coming.

PAX: T-Cell, Dewey, Duplex, Porcelain, Shadow (FNG), Princess Aurora, Minnow Tank (FNG), Crawlspace, Crablegs, Cunning Linguist, Vector, Bad Boy, Trapper Keeper, En Fuego, Reveille, ABC

QIC: Hi-Viz

Mosey to upper parking lot. Today’s focus: Slow it down. Focus on form. Today’s about quality of movement, not quantity.

WOR: SSH IC X 20, Squats (Slow-N-Low) X 20 IC, 6-Count Burpees X 10 IC, LBAC X 10 IC, Beetle Baileys X 10 IC, Reverse LBAC X 10 IC

Count off 1s and 2s. Lose count somehow. Re-do count off.

THANG: Mosey to the end of the parking lot. 1s and 2s line up at different spots. Bear crawl zig-zag down the parking lot, forward, side, forward, side. Those waiting to go (and those who ended before others) knocked out some Lieutenant Dans.

6-Count Burpees X 10 IC

Mosey to the parking lot.

1s and 2s line up for relay, up the hill and back. Runner calls the exercise for those on his team.

6-Count Burpees X 10 IC

Rinse and repeat the relay, except runner calls the exercise for the other team.

6-Count Burpees X 10 IC

Grab some wall. Slow-N-Low DIDs X 10 IC.

6-Count Burpees X 10 IC

MARY: LBCs X 20 IC, Plank (~2:00).

Done.

NMM: T-Claps all around. Lots of hard work this morning. I’ve been wanting to Q a workout like this for a while, focusing on slowing things down to make sure all of us are doing things correctly, not just sort of doing them.

YHC has been thinking a lot about shortcuts lately. I challenged the group in this morning’s COT — and I’ll take the opportunity to challenge all of us — to look for the ways we’ve gotten into the habit of choosing shortcuts instead of choosing the more difficult or more costly way to correctly do things. It might be when you post. It might be at work. It might be at home.

Thanks for the opportunity to lead today. And thanks for challenging me to get better at our AOs and throughout my life.

BH: Check out the #Leadership channel on Slack for the 12th Man effort we’re launching. Hit up T-Cell if you’re interested in being a HIM who helps out.

#PickneyPain next Friday. Crawlspace and Right Said have been ‘voluntold’ to take the Q. Sure to be a good one.

 

Turn your head and cough (Frugal’s Paroxysmal)

Temp: 46ish

PAX:
Foxtrot, Little Stick (FNG), Money Shot, Floppy Disk, squee, strangler, foxtrot, redskull, yard sale, venus, big stick, white russian, spackler, Bagger Vance
QIC: Bagger Vance

Mosey down to Amphitheater

WOR
SSH, IW, HB, SQUATS,MERKINS

To the Weight Room
PII 25 Pull Ups
PI Grab WB and Jump Rope

THANG:
Two Rounds –
PI
25 Wall Ball Shots
PII
Jump Rope
Flap Jack
PI
25 WWIs
PII
Run Loop
Flap Jack
PI
25 Burpees w Ball
PII
Jump Rope
Flap Jack
PI
25 American Hammers (2 ct)
PII
Run Loop (PII Return Gear)
Flap Jack (PI 25 Pull Ups)

EVO II
Plank Progression for the 6
Shuttle Run Football Field
PI Shuttle Run 10,20,30,40,50
PII Flutter Kix
Flap Jack
Reverse Thrusters for the 6
Partner IR around football field

Mary
Flutter Kix x 13 IC
Squats x 13 IC
5 Power Merkins

Time

NMM: Good turn out this AM in spite of a little nip in the air and Fall Break plans.
Disclaimer at 0529:35 and off we went. Foxtrot and YHC were concerned that Frugal was not going to make it due to the whooping cough he was rocking. A quick look over the PAX indicated no Of Counsel and no Doc. We carried on nonetheless.
Bigstick had to break free mid session to drop a heater which gave way to FNG Little Stick. Foxtrot kept thinking Little Stick was Big Stick ergo the new handle.
T Claps to the PAX for enduring YHCs music fail at the start and for the shouting of instructions throughout the EVO.
Money Shot showed his wheels as he edged out Big Stick in the shuttle run.

BH:
Shirt order open until midnight. Price ranges from $20-40 depending upon style and material.
Venus on Q for F3 Top Golf, hit him up for details.

Don’t forget your Adventure, Battle and Beauty.

YHC,
BV

Wish That I Was On Ole Rocky Top…

PAX: Bad Boy, Bicentennial Man, Silver Medal, Boone’s Farm, En Fuego

QIC: En Fuego

Conditions: A gloomy 47 degrees

Let’s First Go Inside the Numbers:

  • 11 straight SEC losses
  • 23 months since the last SEC win, spanning 694 days
  • 15 straight losses to the SEC West, with 7 straight seasons of posting an 0-2 record against the West
  • An impressive run of losing its last game against every SEC opponent

All is no mas and never to be quoted again, thanks to some friendly action down on The Plains this past Saturday.  While YHC didn’t get to see a second of it, today YHC and 4 other PAX donned their orange pride and Smokey Grey unis and celebrated such an occasion – Tennessee Tailgate Style.

5:30: A rusty Disclaimer given, reflective of YHC’s recent time on the IR, followed by an invite to get this TN tailgate started in true fashion.  With that, we go straight into Rocky Top (Ozbourne Brothers rendition for all you eager to add to your Spotify mix).  SSH during the song with a burpee at each “Rocky Top”.  YHC left amazingly unimpressed with the fellow PAX lyrical knowledge of this great tune.

We then mosey off campus to neighboring Burton Hills, setting up COP at the top of the parking garage at 30 Burton Hills.  YHC mentions that we want to make sure the Auburn faithful among us (Silver Medal, #where’sfoggy?) are still fully aboard the GusBus, following the recent 7-year, $49 million extension and awarding the Vols their first SEC win in 694 days.  With that, we perform the following IC:

G – Good Mornings x 7

U – Up Straddle Hop x 4

S – Scorpion Stretch x 9 (we’ve now got the 7 years, $49mm)

B – Baby Arm Circles x 6 (F & R with 23 count in-between, for the 23 months since last win)

U – Up Straddle Hop x 9

S – Slow & Low Squats x 4 (we’ve got our 694 days covered – and all are still fully aboard the GusBus)

We then mosey out of the parking garage to the base of the hill leading from Burton Hills Blvd to Covenant Presbyterian Church.  YHC informs the PAX what a long, uphill battle it has been since that last W – so let us commemorate with some hill work.  We break into two teams – Team Vols with YHC, Boone’s and Bicentennial and Team War Eagle with Silver Medal, Bad Boy & #where’sfoggy?.  Final score was 30-24, so team Team Vols will do 30 reps of each prescribed exercise (90 cumulative); Team War Eagle will do 24 reps (48 cumulative).  Once Team War Eagle completes their 48 reps, they plank and hold from the sideline, watching Team Vols get better.  Once all PAX are in, the two teams run together up the hill, where we R&R in varying fashion:

V – V-ups, then run to the top of the hill (hill #1).  After a 10 count, we mosey down the opposite hill, exiting out to Harding Place (hill #2).   All in, we perform:

O – One-legged deadlift, then Bernie Sanders back up the hill to the Church.  After a 10 count, mosey back down hill #1.  All in, we perform:

L – Lieutenant Dan’s, then run back up to top of hill #1; after a 10 count we mosey back to base of hill #2 for some:

S – Single Hand-Release Merkins (modified to 20 count for time); then Bernie Sanders back up hill #2.

5 minutes left on the clock, we mosey back to the friendly confines of #IIIPillars.  Time called and we end with COT.  Continued prayers for Bad Boy and his M throughout pregnancy; prayers for all the people affected by Hurricane Michael.

Strong tailgate effort to each of the PAX – total of 2.5 miles covered, way too much of that being at a steep incline.  Appreciative of the opportunity to lead.

Until next time, hoping it’s not another 23 months…

En Fuego

“How’s Your Heart?”

How’s Your Heart and Leadership

I know. Men don’t typically ask that question. It’s usually saved for the girls over tea at the Puffy Muffin. However, I think when asked from a man to another man, it shows true leadership.

I’m (T-Cell) in the midst of a job transition. And my fellow job-transitioner, Bagger Vance, called me last week to ask me this question. His first question wasn’t, “What the heck are you going to do next?” or giving me advice on what I should or shouldn’t be doing during this time, it was simply, how are you doing? And not a “don’t answer fine”, but really doing.

This was a tough question for two reasons. First, as men, we typically leave the heart stuff to women and we don’t let ourselves go deep with other men. By Sims asking me the question, he becomes implicated. He can’t dissociate from the outcome of the question. If my answer is, “I’m hurting man. I need help”, Sims has to act. This question from Sims showed true leadership. Sims knew that there could be implications from his asking and he wasn’t afraid of the challenge that may await on the other side of my answer.

Second, it’s a tough question for me. When he asked, I was just a day into not having an office to go into and we were moving, so things were still “busy”. And truly, I had not had time to process the change. However, as days would pass and the busyness subsides, my “new normal” changes. Am I anxious? Nervous? Fearful? Depressed? Because Sims asked this question, I now have to be cognizant of my feelings and address them. I can’t hide or medicate. A leader asks questions of other’s that contribute to the flourishing of others.

What did I learn or what lessons were affirmed through Sim’s question?

Leaders care about someone else’s flourishing more than their own.

Leaders ask hard questions.

Leaders aren’t afraid to step into hard situations.

Leaders care.

Leaders listen.

I’m grateful for a friend like Sims and his leadership in my own life and the lives of those in F3.

How can you exhibit these traits of a leader in your interactions today?