AO: pain-train
Q: morning stār
PAX: Sooie, Wolfpack, G-string, Dilbert, Siri, The Merchant, Timber, morning stār, Lunch Lady, Cheeks (Franklin)
FNGs: None
COUNT: 10
CONDITIONS: just finished raining, perfect temp
5:30 – Men welcomed, disclaimer given: “YHC is not a fitness or mental health professional, you are responsible for your own physical and emotional health this morning. Raise your hand if you’re willing to take responsibility for your personal wellbeing.”
PAX accepted personal responsibility.
WOR:
Motivators 5 to 1, then followed Q around the playground.
COT formed early, this will be a different kind of beatdown.
Count-o-Roma
PAX stretched on their own as YHC laid out the parameters:
“Our goal this morning is to exercise our capacity towards intimacy with others. Intimacy is revealing parts of yourself to others in a space of safety. “Into-me-you-see”.
We’re going to create a safe space for that by making three agreements to one another:
1.Confidentiality: I will hold each man’s story sacred and will not share it outside this circle without that man’s permission. I am free to share my story and my experience outside this circle.
2.Vulnerability: I will stretch myself emotionally by sharing parts of myself that are intimate. I will do this by choice not out of compulsion. I will modify as necessary so that I stay safe emotionally.
3.Attention: I will listen to each man’s story with my whole being, focusing on finding the goodness and beauty in that man. I will not interrupt another man when he is sharing, I will not give advice or feedback. If I have something to share with another man I will reach out to him outside this circle.
If you agree to confidently, raise your hand.
If you agree to vulnerability, take something you’re wearing and put it in this bag.
If you agree to attention take a moment and make eye contact with every man in this circle and communicate to him that you see and accept and honor him as he is.”
THE THANG
Reflection during movement. Sharing after movement. Rinse and repeat.
Part 1: who are you?
Reflection Prompt: think about your essence … “I am a … man” … what does this mean to you?
Movement: 7 min of repeating rounds of work/active recovery. Lt. Dans with standing cross crawls (lazy imperial walkers) and knuckle shoulder taps with rocking.
Sharing: After movement YHC led off and then each man stepped into vulnerability and shared a part of himself as the circle practiced attention.
3 burpees after all shared.
Part 2: how are you showing up as your true self, how are you experiencing joy?
YHC invited each man to put aside any consideration of where the PAX falls short. Focus on identifying and sharing the goodness and beauty that is.
“I Invite that part of you that evaluates how you’re falling short to take a break for the next 20 minutes. I invite the part of you that sees goodness, beauty and virtue to come fully online for the next 20 min.”
Reflection Prompt: think about a moment where you showed up as your true self. Or consider how you experienced joy recently.
Movement: 10 min of repeating rounds of work/active recovery. Lt. Dans with standing cross crawls (lazy imperial walkers) and knuckle shoulder taps with rocking.
Prompt: how have you showed up as that kind of man recently? What’s brought you joy recently?
Solid mumble chatter during first half of movement.
YHC invited PAX to finish movement in silence and refocus on the prompt.
Sharing: After movement YHC led off and then each man stepped into vulnerability and shared a part of himself as the circle practiced attention.
3 burpees after all shared.
Part 3: anchor the experience and check out
YHC asked all PAX to find a bar and hang as long as possible and think of a word or phrase that describes this time for you.
Come back to plank.
YHC realized that G-string and Timber were stuck in a dual to see who could hang the longest and called them back to the circle.
While planking YHC reminded PAX that what they shared in the COT stays in the COT. None of what they shared will be posted in BB.
We checked out with name-o-roma plus the phrase or word that described this experience to each PAX.
Closed COT with ball of man and “pain train” on three.
MOLESKIN
– I think anything with jump lunges should be called “ass crushers”
– great to meet Cheeks from the brig, across the county line from Franklin
– great to meet Dilbert who drive 45 min to be with us
– This DB was inspired by 30/30 from F3 Katy (props to Cash and Salty for the encouragement and sharing what they’ve learned).
– the BD was designed to provide plenty of immediate and future pain. My kuckles have tissue damage and I will be feeling those Lt. Dans tomorrow. Anyone else?
– Honoring and then inviting the part of me that evaluates and critiques all my actions has been life giving to me. It takes practice, but it’s with it. Continue to practice it with yourselves and those around you. Gratitude helps immensely in this pursuit.
– We were after the pain that has a higher purpose to build us up and help us grow.
– The tissue in my knuxks will heal and new, tougher skin will form. The soreness in my glutes will come and go and leave stronger muscles. The discomfort I felt when I stepped into the circle to share myself was replaced by peace and tenderness as I saw my brothers give me their full attention and heard what others shared.
– I’ve found that an accelerant growth is what happens after the work I do. When I intentionally rest and recover after the exertion (physical or emotional). Consider ways to give yourself space to recover and reset both physically and emotionally this week. We all did solid work today; of boys and heart. Well done!
Continue to practice grace and curiosity my brothers, especially towards yourselves,
-m*
